Today is my 365th day of being engaged! A year ago tomorrow I became someone's fiancée...that is still a little cheesy for me to say. I have learnt so much over the last year and I am pretty sure the next 3 and a half months will be the biggest learning curve of all but it has been the best year of my life. If you have just got engaged then you are in for an amazing time and if you're not engaged yet then at least reading this series might prepare you a little bit for what might happen.
The first thing we did when once we were engaged was to both sit down and write a list of everybody we would like to attend the wedding. Include everybody on this list even if you are not 100% sure you actually want them there on the big day. Once you have a list of absolutely every person that could possibly be invited to your wedding ask your parents.
You may not invited the people that they suggest but I guarantee it will help with any initial arguments if you at least ask their opinions.
Once you have all of these names you can start going through them together and agreeing who really matters and who would you would be really disappointed about if they couldn't make it. These are the people that you really need at your wedding.
We did this before we even looked at venues because that gave us an idea of the size of the wedding we wanted and the type of wedding it was going to be.
The list that you are left with after whittling down the original list should be a group of people that you love dearly and who will make your wedding special. We only want people at our wedding that are going to be in our lives for a long time and who we can look back on in 50 years time with our children and remember the names of.
Obviously you may be having a big wedding with lots of extended family and acquaintances and that is absolutely fine. A wedding is so personal and individual so you have to do what works for you and your partner. The most important thing is that you have exactly who you want there on your big day!